Narcissists are actors in a play. They wear their masks and pretend they are what the script calls for. They have the world at their feet and think the world is their stage.
By their very nature, Narcissists are grandiose, have an overinflated sense of self importance, believe they are superior, have a constant need for admiration and adulation, and have a sense of entitlement.
By that above description then, it's easier to see how Narcissists don that mask to act in a play.
The phrase "All the world's a stage, and all the men and women merely players" is from Shakespeare's play "As You Like It." It fits a Narcissist's personality like a glove. Narcissists use everyone they meet as players in their game. Or, in this context of this post, additional parts in the play.
Narcissists are adept at mirroring. (See my post on Mirroring for more info.) Put simply, mirroring is when a person mimics another's emotions, mannerisms, and likes and dislikes. Narcissists watch you closely so that they can become a perfect mirror image of you!
That's the Narcissist's play, his script. They read you like a book to play you for all you're worth. They see what emotions you express and pretend to feel them too. But they can't feel real emotions.
Narcissists divide their play into acts, too. They can easily rage at you one minute, but the second another person walks in the room, they will turn off the rage as easily as you can turn off a sink faucet. That's their second act. They play nice to others when in the public eye. The third act is when they are no longer in the company of others. They go right back to abusing you.
So why do Narcissists use people like this? Why do they use others as pawns in their deceitful game?
One of the first things I learned in my recovery journey was that Narcissists use people to get what they want. It doesn't matter who they use, either. They can and will use their own children!
Using others in their game is a means to an end. They feel they are special and must hob-nob with people who are equally as special. They need to use others to get what they want.
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