Have you ever wondered why Narcissists blame everyone else for things that go wrong? Have you wondered why Narcissists never own up to their mistakes? It’s because they don’t ever take responsibility for their actions. They never hold themselves accountable.
In their eyes, they are perfect and never do anything wrong. But yet, they can demean and devalue. They use people for their own gain. They intimidate others. They blame shift. They bully. They gaslight. They use their entire arsenal of tactics.
And still, they never hold themselves accountable. Why? Narcissists lack empathy. They cannot place themselves in anyone else’s shoes. They don’t have the capacity to understand how their actions affect us. They can only see how it affects them. They are extremely egocentric in this respect. Everything around them is everyone else’s fault. Everyone else is responsible for what goes wrong in their lives.
To accept responsibility and to hold themselves accountable for wrongdoing means having to accept that they were wrong. This is something Narcissists cannot do. Admit they are wrong? No way. To admit they are wrong or make mistakes is showing vulnerability. And to show vulnerability opens them up to the possibility of rejection and judgment. Narcissists don’t handle rejection well. In fact, they scoff at the idea that anyone could do such a thing (reject them). When someone does reject them, it leaves a bad taste in their mouth and the Narcissists will set out to get revenge on the person.
To even be vulnerable in the first place, one must be honest with oneself. Narcissists cannot do that. They cannot be honest. It is in their blood to lie. Narcissists cannot accept that they have fault. They cannot accept that they have imperfections. So instead, they have to lie and create a better version of themselves to the public. Bottom line You will never see Narcissists hold themselves accountable for their actions. They don’t care about the consequences of their actions. They step over anyone to get what they want. Confronting them about any wrongdoing is setting yourself up for being on the receiving end of their Narcissistic Rage. What have been your experiences with Narcissists not holding themselves accountable? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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LaRhonda
9/17/2017 02:23:33 pm
Thanks for sharing your experience is helping me and making me more knowledgable of my relationship/marriage circustance....
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Deana Scot
9/18/2017 03:02:56 am
I asked a use to be Co worker of my husband (when you think of b@**# what is the first thought?) He said (It wasn't me) when we first started out together he has just moved in with me I had went thru a phone he left at the house a message phone he said it was a second phone he had and on the phone I found naked pictures if different females and other things I was not happy to see I deleted all the pic and was upset he'd have the nerve to have it in my house all he said was I shouldn't have been so noisy I should of ended us then cuz everything after has left me just searching for something I now I'll never get .Iv lost myself along the way
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10/9/2017 10:03:07 pm
Go back to the moral and forming lessons of your youth. You are not lost, your candle has only been dimmed. Somewhere inside and behind all of that brain washing is the real you.
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Steven Simmons
9/21/2017 02:21:11 pm
Sums my ex wife up to a tee.
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Scott
2/8/2018 11:07:24 pm
I know I'll never get accountability from her. It's so evil. She's not human. I loved her and did everything for her. But she threw me away like trash. And she has no conscience about it. I had no idea people like this existed. And the woman I loved wasn't even real. The narcissist is who she is. Twisted, perverse, deranged. And she has her family and friends believing I'm the one who has the problem! Unbelievable. It took me 8 months to recover to where I am now. I almost committed suicide after she discarded me. Presently, I'm just trying not to communicate with her, but it's hard because there's no closure. I've even given her a list of all of my symptoms of trauma, and she just avoided it like I hadn't said anything at all. Then she just defends herself and denies everything. It's so horrible. I'm feeling better but I want to get her out of my head.
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Jeff
12/1/2018 11:26:57 am
All I can say it sounds just like my ex, you have to understand you will never get closure It’s just who these evil people are, I was with my ex for 33 years, She was a bully, nothing was ever her fault and would come out and say those words, no empty.
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Vinnie
7/9/2018 03:50:49 am
I was with a narcissist for 4 years of my life that I will never get back. People wonder why I stayed so long. He has stage IV cancer. He had stage III when I met him. I felt guilty for even thinking of someone in that condition. But then, after being blamed for his cancer advancing to stage IV and being called a whore for spending the night at my daughter’s when I needed a break from his controlling abusive behavior, among many other things, I decided it was time to take care of me. I have been gone for almost a month and I am finally starting to feel like myself again. I went back once. I will never go back again.
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