Narcissists can pick and choose what parts of their traits they display to the public, like charm and humor. To their targets, like us, they can carefully choose what parts to display. This includes their passive aggressive nature. At any given time, they can release those different aspects, thereby creating confusion in those they display the traits to.
Perfect Timing
Narcissists don’t just whip out their arsenal of tactics and traits whenever they want. They actually have perfect timing in when they choose to display their passive aggressive nature. 1. Silent Treatment The Silent Treatment is the most popular form of passive aggressive (PA) behavior that Narcissists can display. They will deploy the use of the Silent Treatment when they feel it will benefit them. In their eyes, they are punishing us for any and all perceived slights against them. PA behavior in others Sometimes, even relatively healthy people can exhibit passive aggressive behaviors. It might be how they deal with things. It might just be their personality. A person CAN have a PA personality and not be a Narcissist. Those with a passive aggressive personality are more apt to feel misunderstood and underappreciated. They habitually claim they have been cheated out of what they feel they are owed. They even play the role of victim by passing the buck – as in, they never take responsibility for their actions. They are complainers, whiners and criticizers. I can see how the above paragraph can be seen as taking on traits of a Narcissist. In fact, many Narcissistic traits can be found in the PA personality. But not all those with a PA personality are Narcissists. 2. Triangulation Triangulation is another tool in the Narcissist’s arsenal of tactics. They can easily use another person (or multiple people) to assist with the abuse. Some of those times, those additional people may not even know they are being used in this manner. I remember in May 2016, I called my daughter to wish her a happy birthday. I didn’t spend long on the phone with her, as they were obviously getting ready to go out. Not long into the conversation, I hear my NX’s new supply in the background. She was quite close to the phone, as I could hear every word. As it turned out, she was doing my daughter’s hair! I knew they were getting ready to go out to dinner to celebrate her birthday. In a normal situation, that hair combing and such would have waited until after the phone conversation ended. But not when you are dealing with a Narcissist! They do that sort of thing on purpose! Other PA behaviors Narcissists hate being found out. They will do anything to keep us quiet, even if that means scaring us into silence. They will display numerous other passive aggressive behaviors to achieve this goal. Among them are:
Why we don’t understand it Before my NX came into my life, I never had a reason to understand what Narcissism is or what a passive aggressive personality is. Society generally doesn’t need to know the depths of topics such as these. We never had a reason to know. This is why we don’t really understand it. Until we are faced with the situation, that is. Until we are forced to understand. What have been your experiences with the Narcissist and his or her passive aggressive behaviors? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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Julien Trubman
11/2/2017 04:59:59 am
I stumbled on your website because I just realized that this woman I'm seeing is a Narcissist, and I have been being abused for a year and a half, she already disposed of me and uses me occasionally to kick up shit between her and her new bf, but she is planning on leaving him like she promised to leave her husband, she is doing the same thing over again to me with a different person. right now shes giving me the cold shoulder for no reason. can you please help me and give me some personal insight on what i should do . thank you.
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