Rediscovering who we are after Narcissistic Abuse is an important part in our healing journeys. Because of the Narcissists, we had become disconnected from who we really are. We became a shell of our former selves. We didn’t recognize ourselves. So how can we reconnect with ourselves in our healing journey?
Connecting with ourselves in our healing journey can mean different things for different people. For some, it can mean emotional healing. For others, it can mean rediscovering things that they once loved. And still others try whatever they can do perhaps find a part of themselves that they didn’t even know about.
Below is just a short list of what has helped me connect with myself again.
That last one is important for me. Why, you may ask? You see, my warrior survivor friends, Narcissists work hard at tearing down our self-confidence and self-worth. The NX left me feeling so inept and incapable of accomplishing anything. And when I did manage to reach a goal, he just mocked it. I would be left feeling dejected and unwilling to try anything new after that out of fear of being mocked again. So when someone shows appreciation for something I have done, or when they express confidence in my abilities, it really makes a difference. In fact, there is one particular fellow survivor over the last few years who has had complete faith in me and in my ability to express my thoughts in a blog. He knows who he is. So thank you so much for believing in me. It’s a rarity when we survivors find like-minded individuals who have experienced similar things. We know what we have gone through. We can identify with it. It’s not to say that my now husband hasn’t been supportive. Oh he has been. For sure. But like the old saying goes…..you don’t really know unless you’ve been there. And my fellow survivors have been there. They know. Connecting with yourself post-Narc is just simply bringing yourself back to the person you were before the Narcissist walked into your life. Now I know that it’s impossible to get back to that person 100% only because we have been changed because of our experiences. What I’m referring to is getting back to the core of who we were and what we believed in. Reminding ourselves that it’s okay to be and do what we want. It’s about reconnecting with our inner core. It’s about living our lives as we see fit, not living it how others think we should live it. Bottom line One of the most powerful feelings in our healing journeys is to truly believe in ourselves and in our abilities. To know that we are traveling down the healing path the way we see fit. How are you connecting with yourself in your healing journey? Comment below. And as always, I appreciate you for sharing your stories with me.
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Kim Kannard
1/17/2018 11:09:00 pm
I have trouble getting my mind and heart on the same page. Iam learning all I can about the CN. Ty
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Sue Carman
2/18/2018 03:20:42 am
What if you grew up with a Narcissist parent? I have no idea how to Discover myself now.
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Marie vreeland
2/21/2018 03:23:59 am
I like that recovery hopeful.inspiring message. We just need to reconnect with that same person we knew. Yes. For me moving forward is going back to who I was as that is who I was and bring her to present. Move forward they say is going back for me as that IS our forward
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Kim
7/22/2018 07:57:57 pm
Wow I love your blogs. I was with a Narcissist for almost 5 years. And he eventually managed to keep me at home and away from people die to his jealousy. He controlled everything I did. He is now gone we have got divorced. But within less than a month he is already engaged again. I am shattered. But reading your blog really is helping me get over it. I still love him but for the nice person he pretended to be. When he was ugly and especially in the end he was real ugly. He was also very ugly to my 17 year old son. That being the main reason I left him. But now that I am alone alot I miss his presence. But I don't miss the constant 20 questions about everything and the moaning and the arguing. I am a strong person and it took me a year to realize that I needed to get out. When I first moved I had an incredible sense of peace but since he is now with another woman I cannot stop thinking about him. He consumes my mind. I pray that God takes this away from me and I'm trying to remember all the ugky things to get rid of him out of my heart and mind. But thank you for your blog there are alot of things I have learnt here and I continue to heal. Thank you.
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